This poem appears in slightly different versions on numerous sites across the web. Although we have not been able positively to confirm it, we are quite certain it was written in 1982 by Kelly Osmont, the author of several books about death and grieving, among them Parting Is Not Goodbye. Whoever may be the poet, we are grateful to him or her, for the poem beautifully teaches an important lesson.
You asked, “How are you doing?”
As I told you, tears came to my eyes …
How am I doing?
Really, tears are not a bad sign, you know!
When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless,
not knowing what to do?
Listening with your heart to “how
I am doing”
Talking to you releases what I’ve been
wanting to say aloud,
I’ll cry for a minute or two …
When I hold back the tears, my throat grows
tight, my chest aches, my stomach knots,
So please, take my hand and see me through